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Choose to Forgive

You’ve heard the saying, “Hurting people hurt people.”  We know this is true and we see and hear evidence of it wherever we go.  When we hear others lash out in anger, or feel the brunt of it ourselves, we tend to strike back and make our words or actions hurt more than theirs.  This is the kind of thing we see in 2 year olds and expect them to get over.  Yet, we continue to observe young people and adults acting out their anger toward one another.  We see it on the streets and wonder what is wrong with people.  It is easy to look at others and think that they shouldn’t act like that but the real test here is when we even see it in ourselves.  How seriously do we take the words, “Treat others the way you would have them treat you?”

I am grieved by the numbers of families I see that are broken and at war with one another.  Dr. Paul Hegstrom has written several really good books but he has one entitled, “Broken Children, Grown-up Pain.”  In this book he discusses how wounds and abuses we sustained during childhood affect us as adults.  I am borrowing a quote from one description of the book, “The memory of the past may seem distant and clouded, but within its scars deep wounds remain that continue to inflict pain upon our adult lives–and often end up spilling into the lives of others.”  I would like to add that I believe they ALWAYS spill over into the lives of others.   I know of siblings who are estranged from one another, parents and children who haven’t seen or heard from one another for years all due to the anger and bitterness of the past.  Family of God, this should not be.

I have heard people say that they forgive, even speak forgiveness to their family and yet every conversation is peppered with how badly they were hurt by the one they say they forgive.  Each one blames the other for this or for that, even going so far as to question or condemn the other’s professed commitment to belief in the Lord Jesus.  From time to time, most of us have indulged in laying out guilt and blame.  We want to make them pay.  I have to ask, however, is that true forgiveness?  If you say, “Well, I forgive but I’ll never forget,” have you truly forgiven?

I have discussed in my previous blogs, “Healing of Soul Wounds” and “Releasing Unhealthy Soul Ties,” the steps to freedom from this type of oppression.  In ministry sessions, oftentimes people won’t let you touch their ‘ouchies’ but here is a perfect way to get alone with God and let Him do the surgery on you to pull this junk out of your heart and out of your life.  You still have to make a choice, however.  You can choose to hang on to your offenses, your woundedness and anger or you can choose to let it go.  It is ALWAYS a choice!!!

I hear people say all of time that he or she doesn’t deserve to be forgiven.  If I forgive then it makes what they did all right.  Does it really?  And who made you the judge and jury?  Is your unforgiveness really hurting them?  Sometimes they don’t even know you are angry.  However, as long as you hang on to the offense and the anger and unforgiveness you provide an obstacle that hinders the Lord’s work in them, as well as refusing to let the Lord work in you.  It requires an act of surrender on your part.  Remember, you are the only one that you can change.  You are not responsible to change someone else.  What about the portion of the Lord’s prayer that says, “Father, forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us?”  Can we be forgiven if we refuse to forgive?  Beloved, I encourage you to lay it at His feet once and for all.

Many of us have sung the familiar words, “They’ll know we are Christians by our love.”  And yet, do we really show love unto others?  It is often easier for us to show the love of the Lord to complete strangers than it is to our own family.  The real test of our Christian love, however, comes within our families.  It is the real proof that Christ lives in us.  We should treat them better than we treat anyone else and prefer them above all others.  Until Christ rules and reigns there, then our ministry of love to others is actually pretty ineffectual.

Our best example of the complete love of God is found in Jesus Christ Himself.  When He went to the cross, even in the midst of the pain and misery of His suffering there, He spoke forgiveness.  That was not just directed to the soldiers who had carried out the deed but to all humanity.  You may rationalize with ‘but He was God in the flesh so He could surely do that.’  He was also human and experienced humanity as we do.  Why do you imagine that He sweat drops of blood as He prepared for His own crucifixion?  It wasn’t just about the pain He would suffer.  I believe He was also struggling with forgiving a faithless, cruel, and evil people.  That would include us before we came to know Him.  He had to make a choice to love, a choice to forgive, a choice to surrender, a choice to be reconciled.  We are faced with the same choices.  If we call ourselves Christians, ‘little Christs,’ then how can we fail to make those choices?

Father God, in the name of Jesus Christ, who loved me and forgave me and surrendered Himself for me that I might be reconciled to You by Holy Spirit, I forgive those who have hurt me.  I will not hold their past or mine against them any longer.  I surrender my right to be offended and angry.  I ask that you would forgive me for hurting them, as well.  Lord, I want what You want and I believe You want me to let go.  I make the choice right here, right now and I ask You to fill the hurt and wounded places with Your love and Your healing.  In Jesus’ name, Amen!

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Releasing Ungodly Soul Ties

Today I would like to discuss Soul Ties and how they impact our lives.  They can be either healthy or unhealthy, actually Godly or ungodly.   I believe Soul Ties have a direct relationship to Soul Wounds so for those who may be entering my blogsite for the first time, please be sure to read the previous article.

By definition, a soul tie is a connection formed between two people that involves mind, will and emotions.  It can bring forth both positive and negative results.

A positive or Godly soul tie is the one that is created between a man and a woman in Godly marriage.  God joins two people together and the Bible tells us that they become one flesh. They are bound together and they will cleave unto one another in a unique way. The purpose is to build a very healthy, strong and close relationship between a man and a woman.  Matthew 19:5 , And he said, ‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.’  That unity is a mystery in God. It is a spiritual bond and can’t really be explained but it is definitely understood.

Soul ties also exist between parents and children and can also be found in strong or close friendships. They are not just limited to marriage, as we can see in the example of the friendship between King David and Jonathan in 1 Samuel 18:1.  They can exist in families between siblings and with other relatives.

Negative or ungodly soul ties are those that can be used for the devil’s own advantage. These soul ties are nearly always formed from having sex outside of marriage and cause a person to become defiled.  It is also possible for an ungodly soul tie to form in a steady dating relationship where heavy petting has invited this sort of tie to form.  This is why it is common for a person to still have ‘feelings’ towards an ex-lover or ex-boyfriend or girlfriend even years later.   It is important to realize that you have no right to be attracted in that way.  If you find yourself thinking often of an old relationship then you might ask yourself if there is an ungodly soul tie there.  An ungodly soul tie is perpetuated in the situation of abuse, as well.  It explains why a victim of abuse will often return to relationship with the abuser.  It isn’t because of love, it’s because a soul tie was formed.

Multiple sexual relationships are even more destructive.  There is a cleaving in each one and you have joined your spirit and become one with each lover you encountered. It leaves a person fragmented to the point where a truly healthy relationship is impossible without repentance and healing.  Each one of the soul ties that has been created needs to be broken and you need to take steps to reclaim what you gave away as well as let go of what you took.

Ungodly soul ties can also be formed in any other close relationship, i.e. with children, grandchildren, siblings, friends, etc, when these relationships are controlling your life.  It can be a fine line that is crossed when normally close relationships become the center of everything we do, think and say and take precedence in our lives.  Because of our love for one another, it is easy for that relationship to turn to one of control and manipulation.  Ungodly relationships occur when the Lord is not the focus of our lives.  When our strongest soul tie is to God, there is a divine covering and protection that enables us to withstand forming ungodly soul ties.  Submission to the work of Holy Spirit in our lives is crucial to walking in correct relationship to one another.

Demonic spirits can also take advantage of ungodly soul ties, and use them to transfer spirits between one person to another.  The person will probably experience severe demonic visitations and torments, nightmares, etc. all thanks to an ungodly soul tie. This type of problem requires the ministry of deliverance.

I realize that I have gotten into darker territory here but there are many who are being harassed by evil spirits because of the choices that were made in the flesh.  There is much more going on in the spirit realm than you realize but there is a way to be released from it’s torment.  Go back through the steps that I wrote out in being freed from soul wounds.  First, repent!  Tell God that you are sorry for your sin then ask for His forgiveness.  Take the steps of pulling each one out of your heart, even calling each one by name.  Place them in your hands and then give the sin along with each person you had relationship with back to the Lord.  Ask Him to fill the void in your heart with Holy Spirit and His healing balm.  Ask Him to take away any pain associated with the memories and ask for His cleansing of spirit, soul and body.  Keep declaring your freedom and your wholeness in Christ.  Job 22:28, Decree a thing and it shall be established.  John 8:6, He whom the Son sets free is free indeed.

Father God, in the name of Jesus, my Redeemer, I pray for each one who has gone through the process of cleansing today.   I pray for Your comfort to overshadow them.  I pray for them to be released from any sense of guilt and condemnation for there is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ.  I ask that You would seal them in Your precious Holy Spirit and guide them on their journey to draw closer to You.  I break off the chains of the enemy that have sought to bind them and release them into wholeness before You.  I decree and declare over each one that they are free!   In Jesus’ Name, Amen!!!!


Healing of Soul Wounds

This topic of the healing of soul wounds seems to be my main focus at this time.  I have ministered this over and over again.  It is so very important, even crucial, to our receiving healing, answers to our prayers, and more revelation from our Lord.

We know from practical experience that if we chop off a weed at ground level, the root will continue to produce another plant.  The life underground has not been cut off.  We must dig out the root in order to prevent another infestation of noxious weeds in our garden.  This is also true in our spiritual life, in the garden of our heart.  In dealing with the weeds in our lives, if we only look at the surface then we are missing the deeper issues that are keeping us in bondage.

We must let the Lord reveal to us the deeper source of our oppression.  For instance, you may have recently been hurt or angered by something someone spoke to you.  You may have reacted very strongly against them and even attacked them with cruel words.  You may have cried with hurt and brokenness.  You might ask yourself why that particular thing had such an effect on you.  Have you ever wondered why those kinds of things have a cumulative effect on you and why it feels like this one is the straw that broke the camel’s back?  It is because of an underlying soul wound, a root that has never been pulled out.

When ministering, I often have that person become interactive and visual in removing soul wounds.  I will say to the person that they should hold one of their hands out in front of them and with the other hand grab hold of that wound from out of their heart, their soul and place it in their hand.

Right now, you can do that, too.  Take hold of fear and pull it out and place it in your hand.  Take hold of words that became curses spoken over your life.  Take hold of anger, depression, discouragement, self-hatred, abandonment, rejection, rebellion, doubt and unbelief.  Pull out stress, anxiety, grief, and unforgiveness.  Place all of those things in your hand.  Listen while the Lord brings to mind other things you need to pull out.  Then, cupping your hands together, hold your hands up to the Lord and offer these things to Him.  After all, He bore all of those things in His precious body on the cross.  He shed His life’s blood there for you so that you might be free from all of the things you have just removed from your heart.  Now give them to Him.  Empty your hands of those things and let them go.  Let Jesus heal every one of those hurts that you have been carrying.  Realize that the burden was not yours to bear.  It’s too heavy for you and He wants you to be free.   Ask Him for His miracle-working power to heal your broken heart and make it new.  Now let the cleansing power of Holy Spirit touch you and refresh you.

Doesn’t that feel better?  I encourage you to do this as often as the Lord brings things to your mind or you find yourself reacting in a way you feel is not Godly.  God peels those layers off of our hearts until we no longer have a heart of stone but, rather, a heart of tender flesh.

Father, in Jesus’ name, I pray for each one who has taken the time to go through this process with You.  I pray for each of those wounds to be gone and be healed by Your gentle touch.  I seal this in Holy Spirit and take authority over even the suggestion that these would ever return.  In Jesus’ name, I declare that you are free.  He whom the Son sets free is free indeed.  Amen!

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This is my first post to GloryUsDay.  My name is Patricia Harrington and I welcome you to my blog.  I would like to introduce myself to those who do not know me.  I am from South Dakota originally and currently live in Texas.  I am a mother, daughter, sister, mother-in-law, step-mother, grandmother, aunt and loyal friend.

I am, first of all, a minister of the gospel of Jesus Christ!  I dedicate this blogsite to my Father God through Jesus Christ as inspired by Holy Spirit.  It is my prayer that this website will be one of encouragement, renewal, hope and even education for those who will find it.

I often find myself sharing insights from scripture and revelation from God with others.  I can’t keep quiet for long when it comes to talking about my Jesus.  I have been encouraged to find a way to share more publicly because my benevolent family and friends have been blessed by what the Lord has given me.

I must clarify that I am not a counselor.  It is merely my desire to lead others into a stronger, more intimate relationship with Jehovah God, Yahweh, our Father, through Christ Jesus our Savior and Risen Lord, by the power of Holy Spirit our Comforter and Protector.

It is my goal to address, in a practical way, how to progress in that relationship so that we all have a greater understanding of the Godhead and of our position in Him; what it really means to be “I in Him, He in me.”  I will continually point you toward “trusting in the Lord with all your heart, leaning not to your own understanding but in all your ways acknowledging Him and He will direct your paths.”  (Proverbs 3:5-6)  He has to be the beginning and the end of all of our questions, our desires, our hopes and our dreams.

I will at times be sharing my life’s experiences in order to clarify that we are not so different in the struggles we face in this life.  It is my prayer for you that you will be blessed in what you read here, that you may be open to receiving the Lord’s direction and challenged to allow Him to teach you and even make course corrections in your life.

God Bless you today and every day!!!